Most of us have endured the pain of a broken heart. You loved and lost. The days go by and your mind is consumed with unanswered questions. Where did things go wrong? What could I have done to save the relationship? Did he meet someone else? The list goes on and on.
We all cope in different ways. Some of you become best friends with Ben & Jerry, others release their stress at the gym, and the rest of you may drown your sorrows in chardonnay. No judgement! My first instinct when faced with a broken heart is to run away. Leave all of my problems behind and start over. I’ve actually done that and, while it didn’t solve my problems, it definitely helped my heart heal.
How can traveling mend a broken heart you ask? This is how it helped me.
It’s a distraction
From waiting in airport security lines, to your chatty neighbor on the airplane, to navigating around an unfamiliar city – your mind will be consumed with new experiences. Who has time to think about an ex-boyfriend?
You’ll meet new people
There are countless opportunities to meet new people and make new friends while abroad. Traveling solo makes you more approachable and opens you up to reaching out to others. Traveling with a tour group introduces you to like-minded travelers.
The world may seem small when the person you loved is no longer in it. Bonding with people in new places makes you realize how many amazing people are out there. You never know, ‘the one’ just might be a plane ticket away!
You put yourself first
I’m a people pleaser and want to make others happy. Where would you like to go? What restaurant would you like to dine at? What music would you like to listen to?
Take a trip by yourself and you’ll have the freedom to go anywhere you want and do (almost) anything you want. There’s nobody to compromise with. The only person to please is yourself!
You’ll get comfortable being on your own
You started to build a life with someone and were used to leaning on them for support. Suddenly, you’re facing the world on your own. It feels uncomfortable and you may not know what to do next. My advice is to try something new and try it by yourself. Learn a new language, join a class, or face a fear. It will liberate you and you’ll be looking forward to a new challenge to conquer.
Distance yourself from the past
Physically distancing yourself from your ex can emotionally detach you from them. Out of sight, out of mind. Take a road trip or book a plane ticket. No wifi at the hotel? Even better! Stalking your ex through social media will lengthen the healing process.
Make new memories
Traveling the world creates memories that will last a lifetime. Replace those memories that sadden you with new ones that bring joy to your heart. That relationship with what’s-his-name will be a distant memory before you know it!